Having fought over a year to see my daughter, with the eventual long term goal of 50/50 custody. I just cannot understand those who are happy not to see their kids, or happy with every other weekend.
The feelings i have for my daughter are unmatched by anyone or anything else and i will not stop fighting until I have 50/50 custody, despite the barries that have been put up to try and stop me. I hear excuses of work or travel or other plans. But the truth is that if i was told the only contact i could have is midday-2pm i would change jobs so that wasn’t an issue. If i lived 100 miles away i would move closer so to have more of an input in her life. If i was broke, i’d work 2 jobs, in the time i wasn’t allowed to have with her, to be able to afford to have her.
These excuses are just that, excuses. If you want somthing, and really want it, you’ll move jheaven and earth to get it. Your children should be your heaven and earth. If you get given every other weekend, take it to court again and again until you get given 50/50. You became a parent just as much as the mother did when that child was born and you shouldn’t give up on them the same as their mother isn’t.
I just do not understand dads who seemingly put their children down the priority list. Who have that gift and then get bored of it after a weekend.
Rant over.
A Forgotten father 
This is a great brief for continuing the current anti-father system. Many dads are alienated from their children, hounded for support they cannot pay, and are driven to suicide by the corrupt anti-father family courts. Yet here you are saying that they don’t have a right to eventually conclude that, rather than sacrifice their mental health, financial security, and peace for a goal (50/50 custody) that they may never reach, and that may destroy them in the process, they ought to just “keep fighting”? That is exactly the mentality that has gotten the family courts to where they are today. An assumption that “women have a right to their children, but men must fight for their children.” You are perpetuating anti-father bias.
The heartlessness of men like you for other men going through the same ordeal is shameful. You ought to be ashamed for acting as though only men who make the same decisions as you, and have the same luck as you, deserve respect.
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I’m afraid you clearly haven’t read any of my other blog posts. And therefore taken this one completely out of context.
I firmly believe all fathers should have equally rights from the offset. That split custody should be the default legal setponit after a breakup. That fathers are just as much parents as mothers.
This luck you speak of? My case has been in the family courts for over a year and I haven’t been my daughters daddy since January 2017. That is why i wrote this post, to question why fathers who give up their right to parent do so? And what on earth drives them to decision? Those who fight and keeping fighting for their children are the ones i respect most. Those are the ones who can truly say they tried when the family courts let me down, they can hold their heads high are call themselves dads.
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